“Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them to become what they are capable of being.”
— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749 – 1832)
German playwright, poet, and statesman
(Photo by Tumisu)
“Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them to become what they are capable of being.”
— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749 – 1832)
German playwright, poet, and statesman
(Photo by Tumisu)
This is the day of days to celebrate Super Mom’s everywhere. We likely all know or have known mothers, step-moms, grandmothers, great-grandmothers, mothers-in-law, and mothers-to-be. Every day, but today especially, is an opportunity to respect, honor, and say, “Thank you” and recognize the maternal bond’s contributions to the family.

According to the Encyclopedia Britannic, Mother’s Day was started by Anna Jarvis of Philadelphia, “whose mother had organized women’s groups to promote friendship and health. On May 12, 1907, she held a memorial service at her late mother’s church in Grafton, West Virginia. Within 5 years, virtually every state was observing the day. In 1914, U.S. President Woodrow Wilson made it a national holiday.”
(Photo by S. Hermann and F. Richter)

“Fences are made for those who cannot fly.”
— Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915)
American writer, publisher & philosopher
Editor & founder of Roycroft Press
Note: He and his wife died aboard the RMS Lusitania when it was sunk by a German submarine off the coast of Ireland on May 7, 1915.
(Image by Stefan Keller)

The designation is meant to raise awareness of the decline of civility around the world. Hmmm…. Who among us was thinking, as a society, we’re not dealing with declining civility?
(Photo by John Hain)
A website called CivilityExperts.com suggests a 31-day civility challenge. It features one suggestion for each day, such as:
Say hello to 5 people today.
Make eye contact.
Be courteous.
Make and take personal calls in private.
Turn off your phone during meetings.
Don’t litter.
Don’t interrupt others.
Avoid profanity.
Clean up after yourself.
Hold the door open for others.
Leave a fair tip when dining out.
Close your mouth when chewing and use a napkin.
Keep your work area clean.
Be patient with others.
Include others in conversations.
Smile often at others.
Remember to say “please” and “thank-you.”
Monitor the volume of your ipod, music, or video games around others.
Treat others with kindness.
Try to remember people’s names.
Share the sidewalk. Share the road.
Replace empty toilet paper rolls, paper towels, and trash liners.
Be proud of your appearance and dress nicely.
Be social.
Introduce yourself to others in social situations.
Introduce those around you.
Offer constructive feedback in the form of a compliment sandwich.
Make sure to always use a positive tone.
Repeat.

“What we want is to see the child in pursuit of knowledge, and not knowledge in pursuit of the child.”
— George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)
Irish playwright, critic, and political activist

“I’m bound to be a famous writer… decades after I’m gone.”
— Cathy Burnham Martin, American author, voiceover artist & dedicated foodie
Laughingly responding to a question from host Liz Gabert on BCTV’s “Life with Liz and Beyond”, September 14, 2021
You can catch the whole program on my mini YouTube channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMXf4C_R6qUwmpBE4CpT_Hg
(Photo by Mark Köng)

“Anyone who doesn’t believe in miracles is not a realist.”
— David Ben-Gurion (1886 – 1973)
Former Prime Minister of Israel
(Photo by David Zawila)

“The history of the world is full of men who rose to leadership by sheer force of self-confidence, bravery, and tenacity.”
— Mahatma Gandhi (1869-1948)
Indian lawyer, spiritual & political leader, and nonviolent resistance advocate
“Humans need a lot of reinforcement… loving, gentle encouragement.”
— Bandit Martin (beloved dog and author)
Because this is National Pet Week, I thought you might like hearing some wise words from a pet. Our little Bandit (initially Mom & Dad’s) wrote a book back in 2016. “A Dangerous Book for Dogs… Train Your Humans with the Bandit Method.” He warned his readers to keep the book and audiobook OUT of human hands, but I managed to snag a copy.
Some of his adventures and advice tips are insightful; others are hysterical. But his words, written to other dogs (and their feline friends), are always kind, loving, and honest. Here’s an excerpt from one of his chapters.
“Loving unconditionally comes naturally to canines. We know and practice some love basics… We forgive and forget. We never hold grudges. We share love freely. We express love daily. We are always empathetic. We tune into feelings, not words. We deliver loyalty, unabashed.
“These are natural skills for us, but we must always endeavor to share our example with humans. Remember, they usually mean well, but they tend to be slow learners. If they only understood the value of unconditional love to their health! Such positive energy improves quality and length of life, plus it reduces stress. Now THAT is something always at the top of a human’s To-Do list.”
(Ahhhh… from the mouths of pets! Remember to thank your pet today.)
What better way to celebrate both these days than with a warm, chewy oatmeal raisin cookie! So, here is my 1980 spin on my mother’s classic 1950s Oatmeal Icebox Cookies. Primarily, I used less sugar and more nuts and fruit. I still prefer cooking them for just 8-10 minutes to get an irresistibly chewy, rather than crispy, cookie. In recent years, I have replaced sugar with granulated monk fruit. (More on that after the recipe.)
Oatmeal Raisin Icebox Cookies
1 c butter, softened to room temp
¾ c packed brown sugar
¾ c sugar
2 lg eggs
1 tsp pure vanilla extract
1½ c flour
1 tsp baking soda
3 c quick oats
½ – ¾ c chopped walnuts
3 c raisins (half dark and half golden; or even include dried cranberries)
Mix all ingredients. Form into long rolls. Chill overnight. Slice 1/4″ thick and bake on ungreased cookie sheets 8‑10 minutes at 350. Makes 5-6 dozen.
NOTE: Rolls keep (wrapped airtight) in the refrigerator for several days…. unless you are among those who cannot resist cookie dough. (And yes, you can always go a little wild and add some dark chocolate chips, unsweetened coconut flakes, or any other decadent delights to please your palette.)
Monk fruit is really luo han guo fruit, thought to be originally used by Buddhist monks in the 13th century. The small, green, gourd-like fruits are processed differently by our bodies than sucrose and fructose and have no net carbs nor calories. It’s easy to find non-GMO versions, too.
Yes, monk fruit is commonly touted as a 1 for 1 substitute for sugar. However, it can taste FAR sweeter than sugar. Half as much usually is more than enough, especially when additional sweetness is already included from raisins. In this recipe, I use just 1/3 c golden monk fruit and 1/3 c regular granulated monk fruit. This may vary depending on the brand you purchase. Some, such as Lakanto, add erythritol to make monk fruit a 1-to-1 sugar replacement. Erythritol is a sugar alcohol with about 6% of the calories in an equal amount of sugar. But, like monk fruit, it does not raise blood sugar or insulin levels. Make choices that make sense to you.
Meanwhile, I’m going for that Oatmeal Raisin cookie. Big decision: Do I dip it in ice cream or spritz it with whipped cream?

“Confidence in nonsense is a requirement for the creative process.”
— Epictetus (c50-135AD)
Greek philosopher
(Photo by Matthieu Comoy)

I am blessed with one of the all-time best Mothers in or out of this world. She is my superhero.
In a humble tribute to her, I wrote and released a special book on June 25, 2020, the day she turned 90 years young. “Good Living Skills: Lessons learned from my mother” is a light and lively collection of 40 of my favorite good living skills with which I credit my mother. She filled our lives with love and blessings we could tap into anytime.
I am beyond fortunate to note how active and enthusiastic she is today. Mom remains the living lesson on how to utilize skills that make us better at leading and enjoying positive, productive lives at any age. Glenna Burnham, my dear mother, makes Wonder Woman seem like a mere beginner.
Thank you, Mom, now and forever.

“Never let the fear of striking out get in your way.”
– Babe Ruth (1895-1948)
American Major League Baseball player (1914-1935)
April 27th is celebrated in ballparks throughout the United States and Japan as “Babe Ruth Day” in honor of the “King of Swing,” who helped people fall in love with baseball. In his Hall of Fame induction speech on June 12, 1939, Ruth quipped, “As my old friend Cy Young says, ‘I hope it goes another hundred years and the next hundred years will be the greatest.’ You know to me this is just like an anniversary, because 25 years ago yesterday, I pitched my first baseball game in Boston, for the Boston Red Sox.”
Play ball!

“A stumbling block to the pessimist is a stepping-stone to the optimist.”
— Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1962)
American social activist & First Lady (1933-1945); Ambassador to United Nations
Featured in:
“Healthy Thinking Habits: 7 Attitude Skills Simplified” 2015
“A Healthier You! Fabulous ideas to help you live a healthier life” 2005
(photo by Ulrike Leone)

“Ability is the art of getting credit for all the home runs somebody else hits.”
— Casey Stengel (1890 – 1975) American Major League Baseball player & manager; Baseball Hall of Fame, 1966
May we always feel and express humility and great gratitude for the team players always among us.
(Photo by Alexas Fotos)

“‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink; but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.”
— Thomas Paine (1737-1809)
English-born American political activist, philosopher & revolutionary
(Photo by Clay Banks)

“Have more than thou showest,
Speak less than thou knowest,
Lend less than thou owest.”
— “King Lear” – Act 1, Scene 4
By William Shakespeare (1564-1616)
English poet, playwright, and actor
So, hey you! Er, uh.. I mean, Hark thee!
Dost thou knoweth how ye might
Speaketh in Shakespearean times?
Nay, this mistress was absent all right,
Yet she tryeth to maketh some rhymes!
‘Tis true. William Shakespeare, the Bard himself, ’twas born on April 23, 1564 and, perhaps only as England’s most famous poet and playwright might doeth, he passed on April 23, 1616. The Chicago Shakespeare Theatre initiated this annual celebration, so goeth ahead… giveth it a go! Ye might at least laugheth.
(Photo by Taha)

“If man hasn’t discovered something that he will die for, he isn’t fit to live.”
— Martin Luther King, Jr., (1929 – 1968)
American Baptist minister & civil rights activist
Delivered in an address at the 1963 Great March on Detroit
(Photo by Gayatri Malhotra)

“We are born princes, and the civilizing process makes us frogs.”
— Dr. Eric Berne (1910-1970)
Canadian psychiatrist known for developing the theory of Transactional Analysis
This just happens to be National Bullfrogs Are Beautiful Day.
(Photo by Jill Wellington)
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“Whenever we feel like giving up, we must commit ourselves to finding a better attitude, developing new skills, and working harder.”
— Cathy Burnham Martin
American author, voiceover artist & dedicated foodie
(Photo by Aziz Acharki)

“Hope is the dream of the soul awake.”
– French proverb
(Photo by Marc Olivier Jodoin)

“While motivation fires up our interest and willingness to run the race, encouragement helps get us across the finish line.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin
Encouragement: How to Be and Find theBest, 2019
The Boston Marathon, the world’s oldest annual marathon, celebrates its 126th race today. The participants know that the same skills required to complete a marathon also serve us well in Life.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son,
that whoever believes in him should not perish
but have eternal life.”
— John 3:16
Wishing you sunshine, good times, and many blessings… a life filled with happiness, love, and faith. He is risen! God bless you.
(Photo by Joshua Earle)
Ron Martin, Babe, Sir Ronald… This is the man who dared to invite me into his life as his wife and stepmother for his children. He is my lover, my partner, and my best friend. He gives me strength and challenges me to be my best. I always endeavor to treat him with kindness, respect, and love. On this National Husband Appreciation Day (always the 3rd Saturday in April), I am proud to keep reminding him of how deeply he is appreciated, too. I am an especially grateful person. Thank you!

“Whether we are happy or sad, grateful or resentful, positive or negative, we are equally precious and deserving.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin
Encouragement: How to Be and Find the Best, 2019
(Photo by Felicia Buitenwerf)
Because April is National Humor Month, this is a perfect time to pause to recall and/or share something that gave you that moment of laugh-out-loud joy or a little chuckle when you needed it.
(Our pets’ antics typically manage to have that effect on me.) If you have not seen the 90-second video from London a couple of years ago of the tiny dachshund that loves big sticks, it is sooooo worth checking out. If you love animals, it’s worth watching again. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Ggh6KFBIMo
Enjoy a moment of laughter!
April 13th is the birthday of Poughkeepsie, New York Architect Alfred Mosher Butts (1899-1993), inventor of the Scrabble game in 1931. Originally called “Criss Cross,” he based it on both the crossword puzzle and anagrams.
In 1948, the game was renamed “Scrabble.” Both Mattel and Hasbro hold the trademarks, depending on whether the game is in North America or Europe. It is said that one-third of homes in the USA have a Scrabble game, along with half the homes in Great Britain.
Oh, and if you want a wildly insane score, theoretically, oxyphenbutazone will deliver a cool 1,778 points if connected to certain other words. Unlikely? Impossible? Okay… you are more apt to hit the highest scoring 7-letter word: muzjiks.
Me? I’ll settle for any word where I can use a “q.”
Ahhhhh…. Crispy on the outside, warm and gooey on the inside! (Add a rustic tomato-basil soup or onion soup on the side for dipping perfection!)
My fave way to get the exterior crispy perfection is to spread the outside of the bread with mayonnaise before placing the sandwich in the butter melted in the skillet. (Try it. You’ll be hooked.) The ingredients? Well, we all have our preferences. Choose your bread type, cheese or cheeses, mayonnaise or other dressing, and whatever optional seasoning you like. Then add or don’t add other layers.
In my college years, my favorite breakfast was a basic grilled cheese with added tomato slices and bacon. Then I started adding thin slices of sweet bell pepper, followed by a sprinkling of dry onion soup mix. Hubby Sir Ronald’s choice is adding a fried egg and catsup. He also loves it when I grill up a ham & cheese sandwich with a nice country or Dijon mustard.
Let them evolve to satisfy your day’s whims and fancy! Perhaps a pimento cheese BLT… or luscious lump crabmeat and gruyere. One of my favorites since childhood what something Mom made… open-faced grilled cheese sandwiches. Top them with thick slices of buttery muenster cheese and a sprinkle of your favorite herbs.
Ummm… I think I need to go make a grilled cheese sandwich NOW!
(Open-faced, grilled gruyere sandwiches with onion soup photo by Dana DeVok.)
“Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail.”
-Richard Samet “Kinky” Friedman (1944 – )
American singer, songwriter, and humorist
Notable Quotables, Cathy Chats, Daily Thoughts, recipes, books, audiobooks, and all my articles can be found at www.GoodLiving123.com, where I strive to share information that helps make Good Living as easy as 1-2-3.
Yikes! 57 years ago, several of my classmates and I from Mrs. Russell’s 5th grade English class hit the local news for our “budding” poetic endeavors. David Kehas, Sandra Robinson Zimmerman, (Bonnie) Barbara Mace, and Rob Lamy (misspelled in article.) So, we were 10.
Who knows what authors, journalists, playwrights, and poets are mere youngsters today!?! Let’s give them a word of encouragement!
Write on!
“We may have a firm grasp on the obvious, but the crystal clear can still appear cloudy.”
— Cathy Burnham Martin
American author, voiceover artist & dedicated foodie
(Photo by Al Quino)
Though we’d like to think we maintain some level of awareness throughout the year, April is officially Keep America Beautiful Month. If you drive in urban areas, especially, we know it’s appalling to see the huge amount of litter along the sides of the highways and city streets. Even in the country, hubby and are surprised at how much we gather every couple of months along the road where we live. So, this is the month for us to pay some extra attention to recycling and our shared responsibility to do what we can to keep clean, beautiful spaces in our little corners of the world.
“People who drop litter really stress me out. I have been known to chase after people and say, ‘Sorry, but you’ve forgotten something,’ and then hand it back to them.”
— Ainsley Harriott (1957 – )
English chef
(Photo by Jasmin Sessler)
“Calm self-confidence is as far from conceit as the desire to earn a decent living is remote from greed.”
— Channing Pollock (1926 – 2006), American Magician
Catch all Cathy Chats, Daily Thoughts, recipes, books, audiobooks, and all my articles on my LinkedIn or Facebook page or here at www.GoodLiving123.com, where I strive to share information that helps make Good Living as easy as 1-2-3.
(Photo by Aleksey Kuprikov)
We need not look very far to see people who are suffering, even in times when war and violence are not front-and-center. On any given day, millions of people experience living horrors of various sorts.
The first Wednesday of April is set aside each year as an official Day of Hope. May this be a day of inspiration and motivation for us all to recognize, respect, and even rescue children and adults who are passing through phases of abuse, sickness, and other traumatic experiences.
“Hold your head high, stick your chest out. You can make it. It gets dark sometimes, but morning comes. Keep hope alive.”
— Rev. Jesse L. Jackson (1941 – )
American political activist and Baptist minister
(Photo by Dmitry Ratushny)

“I stole everything I ever heard, but mostly I stole from the horns.”
— Ella Fitzgerald (1917-1996)
American jazz singer
Celebrate JAM! Not the fruity spread, but the Jazz Appreciation Month kind. From early Miles Davis to Louis Armstrong, the founding father of jazz, April is officially the month to honor one of America’s iconic art forms. I was blessed on one special night to share a dressing room with the First Lady of Song herself. Yes, Ella Fitzgerald. I was merely the emcee, and she was the headliner for a fundraiser put together by Robert Parrish of Boston Celtics fame. There was only one backstage space for women at this event, and she could not have been more gracious or kind to me. The honor was all mine. For National Jazz Appreciation Month, I recall the old adage – “Talent borrows; genius steals.” Ella rightfully stole every show.
(Photo by Nicole Bauer)

“Throughout the bleakest circumstances, we can find strength in our togetherness, even when just in spirit.”
— Cathy Burnham Martin
American author, voiceover artist & dedicated foodie
(Photo by Gary Butterfield)

Maya Angelou recognized that we all dance different dances, speak different languages, think different thoughts, fancy different flavors…. And this should be celebrated, rather than discouraged. On this day, if we cannot “find” a rainbow, we should try to “be” a rainbow. Hope provides an eternal dance.
“Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”
— Maya Angelou (1928 – 2014)
American poet, author, and civil rights activist
Cathy Chats, Daily Thoughts, recipes, books, audiobooks, and all my articles can be found here at www.GoodLiving123.com, where I strive to share information that helps make Good Living as easy as 1-2-3 or on other social media sites including Facebook and Linkedin.
(Photo by Julia Gadalina)
Stress can be positive and negative, but it’s the negative that drains us without mercy. Like it or not (“not” wins), we typically have more stress in our lives than we need, and we certainly do not need the people around us to ADD to our stress levels. Nor do WE want to add to anyone else’s.
“Whether we know it or choose to admit it, we are either an Encourager or a Discourager. We each make a choice as to which type we will be… every day. Discouragers bring “stresspools.”
I call any of those places that add unnecessary stress and aggravation “stresspools.” They are just as stinky and rotten as cesspools, but “stresspools” wreak of tension, strain, anxiety, worry, hassle, pressure, and emotional trauma.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts (2017)
(Photo by Nikko Makaspac)
Incredible Edibles happen to be a favorite of mine. And Edible Book Day is no April Fool’s Day joke.
The French gourmet, Anthelme Brillat-Savarin (born on April 1, 1755) wrote “The Physiology of Taste” (1825), which became the gastronome’s bible. And now, foodies from all around the world celebrate with an annual event dedicated to cleverly designed edibles that celebrate books! Thanks to Judith Holmberg, cofounder of Forbes Library in North Hampton, for bringing this crazy annual event to life in 2000.
This doesn’t mean we need to eat some, literally non-edible book, but we could take a big chomp out of that stack to “to-be-read” books. Or dig into making that recipe you’ve been salivating over for a while.
Special thanks to the New Orleans Museum of Art for the photo… “To Kill a Mockingbird” turned into the edible edition… “Tequila Mockingbird.”

“If life gets too hard to stand, kneel.”
— Gordon B. Hinkley (1910-2008)
American religious leader